A little over a year ago, I was sitting at home on bed rest when I came across this group on Baby Center. It was a group of women who were all due with multiples in October, 2012. Soon after joining this group, a few members decided to create a private facebook page where we could all communicate together, as we all had a big task ahead-delivering and raising twins (or quadruplets for one mom).
I honestly do not think I would have survived this first year without these ladies. There are approximately 190 of them, but around 60-70 who are more active than others. Although we have never met, we have this one thing in common that almost makes it seem as if we've been friends for many years.
We have helped each other through weeks of bedrest, delivery, NICU stays, the first sleepless months, breastfeeding, and baby schedules. To now weaning, table food, crawling, walking and helping each other plan our little one's birthday parties.
Besides baby stuff, we have also been there to pray for each other, support each other, and encourage each other. Many of us sent money and cards to one of the moms whose mother passed away to help pay for the funeral expenses. We've given advice to some who needed help with their relationships, and we've helped each other get through those bad days when nothing seems to go right, neither baby will nap, and you just need a break-this is a great place to vent!
Many of us got involved with a postcard exchange and recipe exchange, because we all know we could use some new, quick recipes. Instead of calling our pediatrician with questions, many moms post questions online, because more than likely someone else has been through the same thing: What is this rash? Does it sound like my baby has a milk allergy? What should I do for a fever of 103? Many pediatricians should be glad for groups like these, because instead of calling them at 4 in the morning, moms are posting questions during the middle of the night on Facebook, because you know at least one other mom is probably up.
I've also learned so much from these ladies. As sheltered as I am, I had no idea what twerking is, but now I do and also have a detailed video on Facebook from one of the mom's teaching me how to do it ;). Many ladies swore by their baltic amber teething necklaces and now I own two and find them beneficial. Our moms overseas have taught us about their language, food, and lifestyles.
What I really love about this group is how diverse everyone is and how honest we all are. There are single moms, same sex couples and even a mom who was a surrogate who is not excitedly pregnant again. If I ever need advice, I know these ladies will give me honest, thoughtful answers.
We've talked about trying to all get together some time in the future, and I really hope we will be able to. Until then, I look forward to watching my "nieces and nephews" grow up!
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